This was an era of perverts. It was common to see boys fretting over finding a girlfriend. The reason for his troubles was that he couldn't find a good-looking girl, or that the girl he liked was always lukewarm to him and would rather die than obey him. Many people felt insecure because of their appearance, height, financial strength, education, and so on. But on the streets, one would often see a very beautiful woman with an extremely ugly man, or a handsome man with an unapproachable sister. Many outstanding guys never had a girlfriend, and some guys who had graduated from university six years ago were still virgins. Many men were still virgins after 30. But there were also boys who had slept with more than ten women in four years of university…Wasn't this ironic? Therefore, what I want to say in this first chapter is that a person's inner qualities far exceed his outer appearance. Picking up girls is a very technical matter. If you master the correct picking up skills, you can become an expert. On the other hand, if you lack too much in this aspect, no matter how good your outer conditions are, you still can't pick up girls.
No one could deny that this world was dominated by men. This determined that every woman had a subconscious desire to rely on a man. Many boys didn't understand this. They tried their best to show their affection to girls, regardless of the price, but in the end, it was all for nothing. He often saw boys who had been infatuated with a girl for many years. The girl had always been lukewarm to him, but in the end, she slept with a netizen after meeting her. What a painful lesson! This is the most common mistake that many innocent boys make, so here, the first thing I want to say is this: Women didn't want to be touched. Women wanted to be conquered!
Just like how you are willing to calm down and listen to me, everyone hopes to associate with people who are stronger than themselves. Everyone hopes to have a strong support when they are in trouble. Other than the external strength (income, appearance), the strength here referred more to the spiritual strength. The so-called spiritual strong was brave, firm, mature, and had a mature worldview and way of doing things. These were the roles and missions that society had given men. A woman hoped that when she was lost, you could tell her what to do. Even if this idea was not the best, what she needed more was someone to rely on. When it came to women, he had to give orders when he should, and he had to be tough when he should.
Many boys, in the process of pursuing her, hit a nail in the coffin and immediately gave up. They either hid and licked their wounds or fell out with others. When the girl expressed her goodwill, she was immediately overjoyed. If the girl acted a little cold, she would immediately fall into the abyss. These kinds of actions are very common around us. So here, the second thing I want to talk about is:
A man's emotions should not be controlled by a woman. A calm man had a fatal attraction to women. He was calm and collected in the face of trouble. This was the charm of a mature man. Excitement was a word that only belonged to women, not men.
Secondly, not every girl could be picked up.
If you don't admit this, then you're not seeking truth from facts, and we have no basis to continue talking. George Clooney came to pick up Sun Li. Could two people who did not get along at all pick her up? Whether a woman accepts you or not, her thoughts are very complicated. We have no way to know, and there is no need to know. Don't try to guess what a woman is thinking. No one can guess. If you don't admit it and think you can read a woman's mind, then you don't have to continue watching. I only said this because I wanted to say one thing: Whether you succeed or fail, don't blame yourself. You are you, beautiful or ugly, poor or rich. Everyone has the right to survive in this world. Everyone has the right to get married and have children. There was no reason to deprive people of the right to pursue love.
With this point made clear, the core question that I want to talk about in this part of the article is: He had to firmly grasp the initiative when he was dating a woman!
If you firmly grasp the initiative, you will always be invincible in your relationship with women! What I said was not absolute at all. Many boys would make this mistake. Because they liked someone, they would completely surrender to the other party unconditionally. This kind of behavior would not be appreciated. The reason and ending are in the first paragraph.
Let's analyze the pros and cons of dating: Most of the time, it's the men who chase after the women. I can chase after 100 women in a month, and I don't believe that none of them are willing to be with me. However, there will definitely not be more than three people chasing after you in a month. You rejected me once, and I don't know how long it will take for someone to pursue you again. And I'll be able to find another person to strike up a conversation with in an hour. The advantages and disadvantages were immediately clear. This was the first. Second, women had considerable age pressure. The longer they dragged it on, the more disadvantageous it would be for them. On the other hand, men were on the uphill path, and age did not pose any pressure for men in terms of marriage. Since men had a substantial advantage, how could they easily give it away? The capitulationists thought that the Right Deviation could win, but in fact, they were betraying the initiative of the revolution.
How to take the initiative? Now, let's talk about some specific technical issues.
Don't let the woman know what you mean. Don't let the woman know what you think. Whether you like her or not, the deeper you hide your attitude, the more advantageous it is for you. This was actually very fair. It was the same for women. If a woman liked you, she would not let you feel it. If a woman did not like you, it would be very obvious. Others were in the dark while you were in the light. It would be strange if you didn't suffer a loss. A true expert would never reveal his trump card to the other party. Don't go on a blind date for the sake of a blind date, don't get married for the sake of getting married, hide your motives.
"The biggest immaturity of a man is to see a beautiful woman and think that she is the last woman in his life. The biggest immaturity of a man is to see a woman he likes and marry her.”The more ambiguous your relationship with her is, the better it will be for you. First of all, if she doesn't use you as a threat, you will have enough time and opportunity to show yourself in front of her. She won't have the chance to reject you. More importantly, you will also have the opportunity to consider her inner qualities. Not only men, but women also have to look at inner qualities. Beauty had no substance and was only suitable for sleeping together. However, when you truly fell in love with a woman, it was entirely because you were attracted to something about her. Of course, these were all off-topic and could be discussed in the future. If you've been in contact with her for a period of time, if you can't handle her, or if you think she's not suitable for you, you can also retreat without losing face. The so-called ambiguity, if you say it exists, it exists; if you say it doesn't exist, it doesn't exist. To reach such a realm, it would be more interesting and fun! As long as you keep in touch with each other, isn't it part of your relationship?
2. Don't confess easily. I originally wanted to add the word "ten million", but after thinking about it, it doesn't have to be so absolute. For the same reason, don't even reveal your meaning in your actions, let alone express it in words. The relationship between a man and a woman is naturally formed. If she really accepts you, it doesn't matter if you verbally confirm it. On the other hand, even if she accepted it verbally, she might not be able to accept it in her heart. What you want to conquer is her heart, not her mouth. The first sentence of Will Smith's " 60% of human communication was not through words.
You don't have to worry that she doesn't know what you mean. Women are all very sensitive. She can sense even the smallest detail. I asked you to hide it just now, unless you ignore her forever. As long as you're still in contact with her, your relationship will be abnormal. Don't worry, revealing this little bit is enough. It was necessary to hold a few more cards in his hand. Regardless of whether they liked it or not, whether they were beautiful or ugly, they had to be treated equally. It was hard to read a woman's mind. It was just like investing in stocks. You weren't sure when a stock in your hand would be worthless, and you didn't know which stock would become popular. Only in this way can you be invincible. Spread the risk! If you are in a relationship, you can throw some away. My experience is that you can't throw more than three. If you have more, you won't be able to handle it. Two is enough to make you anxious. Also, you'd better treat this method as a technique to protect yourself, not as a form of entertainment.
The more you attack and cast the net, the higher your chances of success. Many boys didn't understand this and thought that they would only make a move if they met someone they fell in love with at first sight. What I want to say is that even if you meet someone, you might not be able to get together. Even if you hook up or even get married, you might not be able to last forever. What's more, what reason is there to bury your youth in this meaningless fantasy and create a group of older leftover women? The pepper and salt rabbit was the most typical example. In addition, if you were to make more moves, your practical experience would increase exponentially. In fact, it was for emergencies. In the future, if you really meet him, you can also easily capture him. Moreover, only by making more moves and socializing more can you understand them more deeply, understand their inner self, and truly understand what you need. It was very shallow to judge a book by its cover. People who only looked at their appearance would eventually be burdened by their appearance, and those who only had their appearance would find a market for their ignorance. Holding one in his hand was definitely better than nothing. The rest depended on luck.
Communication skills. The so-called communicators, firstly, had to have a connection, and secondly, it was a mutual process. A against B, B against A, two directions. Many people could not understand the importance of communication, and many people did not know how to communicate. Modern society had high requirements for people's communication skills. If they lacked this, not only would it be a problem for them to pick up girls, but it would also be difficult for them to be brilliant in their careers.
1. Keep in touch. Don't fish for three days and dry the net for two days. Some people said that picking up girls was like hanging on QQ. Two hours a day, and at a certain time, it would be sunny. If you want to talk to her, then ignore her. You're sad, and your attitude towards her will change. A lot of people don't understand the importance of this, and I'm going to interrupt you here. A lot of people think it's boring to send messages during holidays, but they don't realize that this text message is one of the few opportunities in a year that shows that you still have a connection with others. In the future, if they had any contact, it wouldn't be too abrupt, let alone if they needed help in the future.
2. From shallow to deep. Don't expect a girl to be willing to sleep with you. Accepting someone required a process. It had to be in line with the person's feelings. The usual process was to first send a text message, then QQ, then call, then hang out together, then have physical contact, and then... Don't be impatient. Take it step by step. Don't jump. Don't think that this process is too old-fashioned. It's good that it's useful.
3. Exchange what? This was another common problem. Many boys didn't know what to say when they were with girls, or they thought that they had to say something philosophical or stylish to appear knowledgeable. These were all big mistakes. Nonsense was the first step in interpersonal relationships.
The content of the exchange was not important, the exchange itself was the most important. As long as the two of you keep communicating, everything can be discussed in the future. Even if you send her the weather forecast every day, it's still a good idea. A conversation that made people feel relaxed was easy to last for a long time, while a depressing conversation made people feel uncomfortable. Most women would not be disgusted by a humorous conversation. Instead, they would feel that they had narrowed the distance between them. Everyone liked to praise her with sweet words, and men were no exception. But don't be too fake and disgusting. Don't deliberately praise others, deliberately make others feel hypocritical. You have to find an opportunity. She would find an opportunity to praise him and feel that he was sincere. Also, praise the main point, don't praise randomly. She was clearly an ugly girl. If you praised her for being beautiful, she might even think that you were scolding her. At this time, you should praise her for being smart. She was especially beautiful. Her ears were numb from hearing people praise her for being beautiful. She had to praise something that she wanted to be affirmed, such as being thoughtful, having a good temperament, or being kind. She may think that you are the only man who likes her not because of her appearance and look at you differently (example: In L. A. Secret, Lyn said White was the only man who didn't think she was Veronica).
4. The direction of communication. This was another place where it was extremely easy to make mistakes. Most girls were always self-centered. She would rather talk about herself than listen to you. Everyone wanted to confide in others, but very few people were willing to listen to others nag. No matter how brilliant or awesome you were, she might not be interested at all. Lead the conversation to her and let her talk more about herself. She can open up to you and she won't treat you as a threat. It would be great if he didn't say anything. Firstly, he didn't have to waste his brain. Secondly, he didn't have to reveal his trump cards. It was so simple. Some boys would boast about themselves when they saw girls. Not only would they not be interested, but they might even disgust them.
A real master is good at listening. There was once a girl who confessed to me after knowing me for two weeks. I just went out with her. Perhaps you're curious about what I told her? The answer is that I didn't say anything. I walked 10 laps around the field, and she kept talking to me about QQ games and idol dramas. I didn't listen to a single word, and I hated her so much. However, if I didn't say anything, she would think that I was listening carefully. I just commented on her words during the gap between her words to show that I was still listening. She talked non-stop and happily. Although I'm uncomfortable, I'm comfortable. Let her be satisfied first, and it'll be my turn to be satisfied later…
Once again, communication was mutual. If you can get the story and content from her heart, really, brother, I think everything else is not important. She is not guarded against you, so you can do whatever you want.
Physical contact. When the time was right, he would grab what he needed to grab, touch what he needed to touch, strip what he needed to strip, and do what he needed to do. Don't drag it out. If you drag it out, things will change. Women are very fickle. There are a lot of experts here, so I won't talk about this. It's not the main content I want to talk about here. Let me quote the words of the old man with braids, Gu Hongming, from the early years of the Republic of China. Later, it was publicized by Zhang Ailing and was said by others: The path to a woman's heart had to go through the vaginas. Don't think that these thoughts are very vulgar. Whether your thoughts are pure or not, it's the same to her. This was what men and women did when they were together. No matter how pure you were, people would still think that you had physical intentions. Moreover, were you really pure? Please don't deceive yourself.
Men's self-cultivation was varied in this society, and the types that girls liked could also be varied. If a boy wanted to change himself for a girl, it was inevitable that it would be difficult for everyone to agree. However, based on my many years of experience, there is a type of guy that can take on any girl, regardless of their occupation, age, background, or personality. That type of guy is sunshine!
If you want to be a boy who is popular with girls, then please be a sunny man! Even if you are a man with a family, but your life is bleak and your circumstances are not good, please be a sunny man. A man could have many unlovable aspects, but the only unlovable aspect was not facing life properly. The so-called sunlight, first of all, the appearance must be sunlight. Try not to choose a low and gloomy style. Clothes, hairstyle, these must make people feel fresh and easy to accept. They must look comfortable. At the very least, they must be clean to avoid going overboard. Of course, this was an off-topic topic. A sunny person, please keep smiling! Other than a silly smile, any kind of smile was fine. A wicked smile was the most lethal. (If you are not familiar with it, please practice in front of the mirror every day.) A smile can turn a big thing into a small thing, a bad thing into a good thing, a smile can eliminate the sense of distance between people, can turn danger into nothingness, and a smile can turn awkwardness into relaxation. Is there a smile in your photo? Does your smile make people feel comfortable? Does your smile give people a warm and friendly feeling? Please practice more.
Other than the sunny appearance, more importantly, a person needed to have a sunny mentality. The so-called sunny attitude was optimistic, valiant, full of confidence in the future, and not easily sad about anything. Humorous, interesting, emotionally stable, I mentioned all of these before. In this era where God had passed away and morality was lost, your sunshine and warmth were irresistible to them. Even if they knew that this was a cup of poisonous wine, they would still drink it. They were neither angels nor demons. They were just a group of people, a group of ordinary people. Although they weren't real women, they wanted to see a real man.
1. Hook up with pretty girls. Don't think that just because you don't have good conditions and don't have confidence, you can bend to yourself and find someone who's not good-looking. In fact, it was the opposite. Beautiful girls were often more confident and easy to seduce. The ugly girl, on the other hand, had many abnormal thoughts and actions because of her inferiority complex. Ugly people often make trouble. You think that finding an ugly person will make you feel better, but in the end, you are often asking for trouble. Although I shouldn't judge a book by its cover, I've seen many girls who are ugly on the outside and ugly on the inside. I've also seen many girls who are good on the outside and good on the inside. Most beautiful girls had good inner qualities.
2. Chatting up was everywhere. Every day, we go to work, go to school, eat, go home, buy and sell things, and come into contact with all kinds of people. However, in reality, there are very few opportunities for in-depth communication. You can't hit on a person standing at the counter. It's too unnatural and everyone will feel uncomfortable.
I recommend a few places: short-distance trains and long-distance buses. Don't think that taking a bus is just a transportation process. It's an excellent opportunity to meet strangers of the opposite sex. First of all, taking the same car means that you are likely to travel to the same place or live in the same city. You have a great opportunity to continue to travel in the future. Secondly, the 2 - 3 hour drive will give you enough time to do your best. It will allow you to communicate with each other, leave a good impression, and call each other. I often travel between Nanjing and Shanghai, and there's about a 40% chance that the person sitting next to me is a young girl. You won't believe this ratio, but I'm telling the truth.
The second was the canteen, school or workplace, and public restaurants. Sitting closer to a beautiful woman would make her feel better. There was once a month where I would strike up a conversation in the cafeteria like a green-headed fly on time every day. There was also a time when I was on a train and had a long chat with two strange girls in the morning. When I was waiting for the train, I would flirt with one at McDonald's, and when I got on the train, I would flirt with another. As long as I really wanted to, if I was thick-skinned enough and had a good language talent, I could easily get to know more than 10 beautiful women in a month. Take your time. Please refer to the fourth article in the second part. The first words were casual, such as " You're also waiting for the car here!”" Why is your train ticket different from mine?"" What book are you holding in your hand?" Nonsense is the first step in interpersonal relationships. I'll repeat myself.
Although there may be some loopholes, the above can basically summarize the essence of my thoughts. If you do it, no matter what your conditions are, picking up girls will not be difficult for you. It was nothing more than the good-looking ones with good conditions and the ugly ones with worse conditions. However, you could definitely do a lot and be very skilled. However, the reason why I'm sharing these experiences with you isn't to create more playboys. I just want to see more people who have true love together, instead of watching many lonely men and women suffer from long-term depression and loneliness. This was good for both boys and girls. Since you have superb flirting skills, please don't abuse them. You can lie to them, but don't hurt them. Especially, please don't hurt kind-hearted girls. In this day and age, there were too few kind girls. Please use your power to protect the remaining beauty in this world! Please treat others well and treat yourself well.
Personally, I don't appreciate blind dates and online dating. The reason is simple. It's too purposeful and goes against my entire theory. Those who have the heart will naturally clear their hearts, and those who have no heart will not be able to see clearly.
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