It was human nature to like the new and hate the old, but marriage was a curse that tried to kidnap two people for life. The constant relationship that had become more and more familiar to the point of being pervasive had lost its crisis and fresh excitement. Regardless of whether they were men or women, they would become trivial and decadent due to the lack of challenges and nourishment, and they would age prematurely. This was not a crime of marriage. The problem was how the husband and wife who built the siege defined their roles. Because it was too cooked, it was easy to rot and give off a rancid smell. Therefore, the most important relationship between husband and wife was not intimacy, but appropriate alienation. To put it in a more figurative way, it meant that emotions that were like cooked meat needed a refrigerator to keep them fresh.
As a common form of expression of the relationship between the two genders, marriage was destined to be full of fireworks, but it was also destined to be full of vitality and never tired. Married and unmarried people all understood the function of marriage, which was the Demon Revealing Mirror. Without needing the other party to do anything, the two parties in the marriage mirror almost simultaneously peeled off the pre-marriage packaging layer by layer. From the outside to the inside, they did not hide their true colors at all and even became more obvious. For any relationship to last, one must understand one thing: Strangeness makes people close, understanding makes people separate. Especially the relationship between a man and a woman under the cover of marriage, it was the easiest to lose oneself and be rejected. Love was love. You could add some friendship and kinship, but don't change its essence.
They deliberately kept a moderate distance in their marriage. Thus, they maintained their mystery and independence, creating a familiar but not greasy freshness. And love needed this kind of freshness to maintain its freshness. Distance also had energy, and it made quarrels lose their soil. When one side's expression was not right, the other side could calmly dodge and wait for an opportunity to move. The respect that came from distance prevented the couple from falling out. Of course, a large house with many rooms seemed extravagant and difficult to handle. However, one thing to clarify is that each of us has an invincible and vast spiritual space. The size of the marriage territory was not up to him.
The objective conditions were difficult, but the correct mentality and attitude were the benchmark that led the overall situation. To put it bluntly, from a woman's point of view, she treated her husband as an outsider. In front of outsiders, you should at least act the same way in front of your husband or wife. Maintaining basic etiquette and elegance could prevent the marriage from being too familiar. It was precisely because marriage brought the physical relationship between a man and a woman closer that it was necessary to wear good clothes. Only by having an independent and dignified self could one withstand the passage of time in the trivial relationship between them after marriage.
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